Monthly Archives: September 2016

Bâtir Le Relationnel Sur Du Solide.

Aujourd’hui, l’interaction humaine prend une toute autre dimension. Il est facile de “se faire des amis” grâce à Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. On a l’impression de voyager à travers les continents en se liant à des gens habitant à l’autre bout du monde. Les relations deviennent éphémères et ne se construisent plus sur le vécu et sur le temps. Ce sont désormais les intérêts communs tels que le sport pratiqué et les loisirs qui sont mis en valeur par les photos prises et partagés en ligne. Se rencontrer pour prendre un café et discuter de tout et de rien n’est plus aussi important pour bâtir des liens solides.

Malgré ce changement social au niveau de l’interaction humaine, on se rend compte au fil du temps que certaines personnes vous ont influencé inconsciemment. Vous avez changé de perspective sur certains sujets. Vos habitudes quotidiennes ont évolué dans le temps, non pas parce que vous l’avez souhaité, mais par les conversations que vous avez eues avec vos amis.

Le relationnel a un effet catalyseur pour la connaissance de soi. Il y a eu de nombreux philosophes tels que Socrates qui ont prêché la connaissance de soi pour faire des meilleurs choix dans la vie. Aucune personne n’arrive dans votre vie par accident. Il y aura toujours un échange qui aura lieu. Cela peut être des leçons à tirer ou un partage de connaissance ou des moments inoubliables à partager.

Toute personne rencontrée est un miroir de votre subconscient. Votre subconscient régit vos attitudes, vos croyances et valeurs. Chaque amitié ou relation met en valeur un ou plusieurs aspects de votre subconscient. Vous avez un choix d’en interpréter et d’en faire usage de la leçon à tirer ou de ne pas en tenir compte. Certaines leçons reviennent sans cesse jusqu’à que vous soyez prêt à bien les retenir.

En jetant un regard sur votre passé, vous allez peut être vous rendre compte qu’il y a eu des moments où vous avez souhaité prolonger une amitié sans succès. Il est possible que certaines personnes existent dans votre vie pour une raison quelconque. Une fois que cette raison n’existe plus, la personne part de son propre accord. Il arrive que les liens se détériorent et, malgré tous les bons moments partages ensemble, il est mieux de laisser partir la personne. Vous faites ainsi place pour d’autres personnes pouvant contribuer positivement à votre vie. C’est toujours douloureux de terminer une amitié qui n’a plus de sens. Il est cependant souhaitable de continuer votre route avec des personnes pouvant mieux vous comprendre et vous soutenir dans vos efforts.

Se culpabiliser pour avoir “abandonné” certains de vos amis ne vous apporte rien. La vie est faite de choix difficiles et nécessaires à votre bien-être. Construire votre vie en renforçant votre confiance en soi vous donne les moyens d’être heureux et de faire des rencontres qui valorisent votre bien-être émotionnel, intellectuel et physique.

Libérez-vous des ressentiments que vous pourriez avoir à l’encontre de certaines personnes, ceux qui vous ont blessé dans le passé. Les rancœurs n’amènent à rien de bon. Construire son avenir sur de la colère ou l’utiliser pour se motiver à aller plus loin est la même que bâtir les fondations d’une maison sur du sable mouvant. Prenez votre temps à vous pardonner d’avoir fait le mauvais choix ou d’avoir été aveugle aux comportements malsains de certaines personnes.

En écoutant votre cœur et votre instinct, vous sauriez au fil du temps vous entourer de personnes ayant les mêmes perspectives de vie. Votre instinct vous poussera des fois à faire des choix difficiles et c’est en les faisant que vous allez être plus en contrôle de votre vie.

La vie est un lieu d’apprentissage et c’est en faisant des mauvais choix qu’on devient plus sage!

Why Are You In Business?

Your life is a maze of relationships: how you relate to people you meet, how you relate to your business, how you interpret events going around you. Everything in your life is about managing, building and letting go of relationships. Some relationships are easier to let go and some others come around smoothly. Relationships are great places to learn, to raise self awareness, to acquire new skills. So pace your learning and be kind if you are making mistakes. The most important thing is to begin with a sincere intent.

The Law of Attraction states that you attract what you are. It means that you attract clients, business associates or friends having similar emotional states as yours. There are times when you think of someone and that person just happens to be calling you. You are both at similar emotional states and given that you have thought of that person, you both meet “accidentally”. It is the same principle when it comes to explain the state of your business. Life is, generally, a reflection of who you are. It is sometimes difficult to interpret from what you see, feel and hear. Put this need of understanding aside. Let things be until clarity comes. It will always come at the time you most need it.

Any relationship is, therefore, the product of your thoughts and your emotional state. If you don’t like what is happening around you, change your thoughts – easier said than done! You won’t always get it right and you may have to try it a few times before the desired changes come around. There are times when you won’t even achieve your goals. It is important to allow yourself to let go of being always on target.

There will be days when you will feel you have not given your best or your ego has got the better of you. It is OK. You are learning to honour your personal power. Your personal power is your freedom to create desired opportunities. You are not waiting on the sidelines for things to happen. You are actively co creating by focusing on the actions that you can do to make it happen.

Your ego, sometimes, gets in the way. It will tell you “why are you doing this?” “You should not be the one having to do this” or “What right do they have to treat me like this?” It is true that mutual respect should be expected from your interactions from others. However, you don’t control the attitude of others nor can you impose your will on others for your own vested interests.

Resilience is one of the most useful traits to have when you are running your own business. Resilience is about being determined to pursue a balance between the heart and your ego. Both are needed in this world to succeed and live fully. There is no way you will find satisfaction or happiness in what you do and achieve if you are constantly led by your ego. Happiness is a state of mind. You can be happy right now or you can continuously postpone your happiness for the sake of your ego.

Your daily interaction with the world forces you to do a reality check every day about your why. It is important to remind yourself why you are creating this maze of relationships. Is it worth all the efforts you are putting in? Is it to impress some people or is it because your heart is in it?

A few people would rather give up at certain point and choose the easiest option – to be driven by their ego, fears and doubts. This is because, for many people, running a business is a means to an end. When this end has been met, they don’t understand why they can’t go any further or why things become a chore. Doing business should be something that your heart feels part of. It can actually be a work of art for you – something to be proud of and to pass on to the next generation of entrepreneurs or a source of inspiration and learning for others or it can be a driver of positive changes.

Self Empowerment To Achieve Your Goals

Goals setting is a very popular exercise. You become more aware of your goals once the last quarter of the year has started. The approach of a new year reminds you of the goals you have set yourselves at the beginning of this year. It is sometimes very frustrating to find out that some goals tend to be more elusive than others. Old habits die hard and goals such as eating healthier or becoming financially free tend to be more challenging to achieve. They can become lifetime goals if you are not ready to make the necessary changes in your lives or you don’t have the necessary support.

Your skills and talents are not being questioned here. It is more about having the right mindset: those beliefs and values which empower you to achieve those goals that influence your present and future. It takes discipline, love, commitment and self awareness. Discipline is combining willpower and actions to turn them into empowering habits.

When your habits stall you, learn to understand the payoff so as to change them. Simplify your life by focusing on what is most important to you. The rest are distractions. Having fun is an important part of the journey because it makes the journey interesting, motivating and shorter.

Goals are not about figures, targets. They are in relation to your dreams: financial freedom, legacy to your loved ones, to the community etc. Emotional goals are those that really motivate someone to move forward. Connecting your goals to a purpose ensure that your heart is into achieving them. The emotional aspect strengthens your commitment and builds your resilience to the challenges that you face in your journey.

Caroline Neita, the Money Mentor, is well aware of the challenges that someone can face to achieve their goals of being financially free. In her talk at SBN Croydon, she emphasizes the need to review your daily habits to ensure that you are not “sabotaging” yourself. She helps her clients to review their “financial” habits and raise their awareness about what is getting in the way of them achieving their financial freedom. Debt management and repayment is also part of the financial mentorship program that she offers to her individual clients.

In going through your monthly expense, Caroline helps you identify those cost savings that will allow you to grow your pot of money so as to buy your property or save for the business idea you want to implement in the very near future. Being a qualified accountant, she also helps business owners to review the financial situation of their business so as to assess whether their current corporate strategy is having the desired impact.

Most people seem to think that financial literacy is about being able to count money and do a monthly budget. Caroline Neita thinks otherwise. It is all about having the right attitude towards managing your personal finance and being focused on the results that would give you your own financial freedom. If you need some help in reviewing your financial literacy, Caroline Neita can be reached on englishneita@gmail.com

Self Awareness Is The Best Tool In Periods Of Transitions

Self-Awareness is the ability to observe yourself without any judgement. You accept everything about you: your strengths and your weaknesses. Everything about life is about ups and downs and this is reflected in human nature. What is dangerous is not making any effort of nurturing a strong relationship with yourself.

How you relate to others is more to do about how you relate to yourself. Managing your fears and hopes, learning new skills, using your guts instincts are all part of managing your relationship with your own self. Assuming that there is nothing that you can do about your own personality and everything is about others’ attitude towards you is more about being the “victim” and not being your own master. How many of your existing relationships do you have where you feel comfortable to be in your own shoes? If it is over 90%, then you are living true to your spirit. On the other hand, if it is a struggle to interact with people around you whether at work or in your personal life, then it is time to raise your self awareness.

Self awareness takes you out of your comfort zone as it challenges you to think differently. Your set of values and beliefs may need re assessment. What has served you so well in the past, may be getting in the way of you achieving your goals. There is no need to discard everything and adopt new ones. There is always some fine tuning to be done. Flexing your behaviour is not achievable if you are not ready to discard your pride. It is your pride that “tells” you that your past achievements give you the right to think that you know best. Each level of success requires you to go through a learning curve and that can be done most effectively when you are ready to be the “student”.

You have to take risks: to be in that place where nothing is for sure – you can be winning or losing. Whatever the outcome, it is the experience that matters. It may sound cliché. The human brain – all it knows is limits, potential, options. If you show the way to a range of possibilities then the mind gets used to think out of the box. There will be less “what ifs” on the next round. Of course, failures have a negative impact. They can stop you in your momentum. It is not your potential self that is stopping you. It is that part of you that is all about “know it all”. Well, that is part of your limitations. Your potential self is more excited about adventure, getting to do things differently. There may be parts of your personality that you will get to know better when you are willing to open your horizons.

Of course, there will be those moments where you feel inadequate as a true beginner is. You are used to know what to do next and you are now totally confused. This state of confusion, if taken too seriously, undermines your confidence. If you tackle it by making it more as a game then the pressure eases off considerably. At some point in time, you will feel that this is becoming something of second nature to you. Getting used to not knowing everything is a great skill when you start a new job, make a career change, relocate or start a new phase in your life.

Taking steps towards goals are real affirmations as your unconscious can actually “witness” your actions. The more steps you take towards your goals, the more you are comfortable in doing them. That raises your self confidence, boosts your morale when you focus on your ease in doing them rather than the missed attempt.

As Lao Tzu once said: “Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it. So, be like water:).