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Self Awareness Is The Best Tool In Periods Of Transitions

Self-Awareness is the ability to observe yourself without any judgement. You accept everything about you: your strengths and your weaknesses. Everything about life is about ups and downs and this is reflected in human nature. What is not advisable is not making any effort of nurturing a strong relationship with yourself.

How you relate to others is more to do about how you relate to yourself. Managing your fears and hopes, learning new skills, using your guts instincts are all part of managing your relationship with your own self. Assuming that there is nothing that you can do about your own personality and everything is about others’ attitude towards you is more about being the “victim” and not being your own master. How many of your existing relationships do you have where you feel comfortable to be in your own shoes? If it is over 90%, then you are living true to your spirit. On the other hand, if it is a struggle to interact with people around you whether at work or in your personal life, then it is time to raise your self awareness.

Self awareness takes you out of your comfort zone as it challenges you to think differently. Your set of values and beliefs may need re assessment. What has served you so well in the past, may now be getting in the way of achieving your goals. There is no need to discard everything and adopt new ones. There is always some fine tuning to be done. Flexing your behaviour is not achievable if you are not ready to discard your pride. It is your pride that “tells” you that your past achievements give you the right to think that you know best. Each level of success requires you to go through a learning curve and that can be done most effectively when you are ready to be a “newbie”.

You have to take risks: to be in that place where nothing is for certain. Whatever the outcome, it is the experience that matters. It may sound cliché. The human brain – all it knows is limits, potential, options. If you show the way to a range of possibilities then the mind gets used to think out of the box. There will be less “what ifs” on the next round. Of course, failures have a negative impact. They can stop you in your momentum. It is not your potential self that is stopping you. It is that part of you that is all about “know it all”. Well, that is part of your limitations. Your potential self is more excited about adventure, getting to do things differently. There may be parts of your personality that you will get to know better when you are willing to go beyond your  known horizons.

Of course, there will be those moments where you feel inadequate as a true beginner is. You are used to know what to do next and you are now totally confused. This state of confusion, if taken too seriously, undermines your confidence. If you tackle it by making it more as a game then the pressure eases off considerably. At some point in time, you will feel that this is becoming something of second nature to you. Getting used to not knowing everything is a great skill when you start a new job, make a career change, relocate or start a new phase in your life.

Taking steps towards goals are real affirmations as your unconscious can actually “witness” your actions. The more steps you take towards your goals, the more you are comfortable in doing them. That raises your self confidence, boosts your morale when you focus on your ease in doing them rather than the missed attempt.

As Lao Tzu once said: “Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it. So, be like water:).

Social Media Networking Strategy – Demystified by John Coupland

Like most SME owners. I have been told that it is important to have an online presence so as not to lose any sales opportunities. True, 90% of our sales come from our online presence.  More and more people make online purchases, look for online reviews and research online before they make up their mind. So, I have decided to include social media in the business strategy. A few years ago, I have been to a number of workshops about social media. I tried to use my notes to help me navigate the online landscape. In terms of business management, I tend to try out on my own first so that I understand the implications and build a working knowledge of it. When the time is right, I can then go and hire the person whom I think will fit with what I need.

Is Social Media a hype or is it truly something that can be leveraged in any business strategy?

I attended a talk by John Coupland, some years ago. He offered a number of practical tips. I bought his book: “ ACCELerate Your Social Media”, thinking that it may come useful. Like any typical business owner, I have allowed things to get in the way and focused more on operations rather than strategic vision. I opened the book very recently when I have been reviewing the marketing strategy of my business. It is the first time that mapping out a strategy that includes both online and offline networking strategies became reality. Within 2 months of implementing some of John’s tips, I am now seeing the results with increased sales leads.

John talks about “return on investment” – a measure that clearly indicates a results oriented approach. This is what he mainly preaches when it comes to an overall online strategy. He helps you determine the target Return On Investment and plan the strategy that will help you achieve it. In his book, John provides a number of tools to review your social media strategy and it actually helped me to identify the gaps that I need to address to make my online strategy more effective.  Whatever works – replicate, replicate and replicate!

Integrating your social media strategy into your overall business strategy is critical. However, many people think that it is about having an online presence. It is goes beyond that. Engagement creates sales leads and strengthens your network. So, merging the offline with the online is crucial. Everything is about People First. Very few people follow up once you have accepted their request to be part of their Linkedin network. In many networking events, not many people would ask you what they can do for you… The reason to meet should be of potential benefit. “Great networking is about bringing the best out of people. If you achieve this, you will be bringing the best out of yourself too.”- John Coupland

It is difficult to engage with your network all at the same time and on a regular basis. So creating a “Core Network” that can add value and whom you can also support is recommended. The Core Network may account for only 20% of your whole network and will bring 80% positive results – the Pareto Principle.

Social media should be used as a means to support the other appropriate channels to market your business. John recommends to start with a couple of social networks. “Less Is More”. There are No “must have” social networks. As a business owner, this is very relevant as being in the driving seat means that you are overseeing the whole operations, thinking strategically and reviewing occasionally to assess your progress. Building strong relationships with your network is more effective in generating business rather than spreading your engagement too thinly across many.  His next advice is “KISS” – Keep It Simple Stupid.

Also, networking is about leveraging the collective wisdom and experience. So, it is important to network not only with potential clients but also with experts in your industry too. Clarity and consistency is key in your communication. Your online presence across different social media network needs to be consistent.

Effective and great networking works when you

  1. Have a positive Attitude
  2. Think the bigger picture
  3. Are Creative
  4. Are giving
  5. Have a “Can Do” approach

As Anon says it well: “ if you want to be incrementally better, Be Competitive! If you want to be exponentially better,  Be Cooperative!”

 

The Sharing Economy, Millennials And The Abundance Mindset

Uber, Air Bnb have transformed their respective industries by bringing in new values and mindset. They have promoted values or concepts related to living in community, sharing, “win win” solutions and this has worked wonderfully well in an era where Millennials are now able to dictate the market.

Creating a “win win” solution and sharing what you have with others are part of the Abundance mindset. People adopting this mindset are more open to working in teams, supporting each other and having a longer term vision. They are willing to try out new concepts and create a whole new dimension of experiences. Someone with an abundance mindset considers any challenge as an opportunity worth taking and any failure as valuable lessons for the future.

Millennials have similar values and mindset. They were born in the globalisation era and have lived in places where it is “normal” to listen to a number of different languages being spoken. They value their freedom to go and do as they please without having to worry about “what others will say or think”. For them, their identity is not attached to owning branded products or being seen as living a certain lifestyle. Their identity is more related to what they believe in: fairness, tolerance, flexibility. They would be willing to make a purchase if that purchase supports the cause they believe in.

Making a “quick” profit or buying into a “glamorous” lifestyle is not what they would be supporting. This is similar to having an abundance mindset. Being you and not wanting to compare yourself with others, being appreciative of others and valuing relationships are amongst the various traits of someone having an abundance mindset.

It is difficult to fake an abundance mindset when you don’t believe in it. Your actions will not reflect your speech and thoughts. For businesses to tap into this growing generation of millennials, they would probably need to do more than understanding the psychology behind it. They would need to embrace it fully!!! With social media being their main means of communication, a number of Millennials are all about being in the open and sharing their views about everything to everyone. So faking it would only hurt the long term sustainability of your business.

How do you know whether you have an abundance mindset and how do you know whether your business is geared to tap into this growing generation of potential clients, employees and business associates?  Here are two tests that help find out for yourself. Abundance Mindset and Are You A Millenial?

Networking Can Be Fun For Introverts

Networking, networking and networking – this is the most common advice given to anyone looking to change jobs, to find more clients or to make a career change… When you are an introvert like I am, it seems a formidable challenge when I was first given this advice a few years back. Having recently settled in the UK and looking for business opportunities, networking in an environment as a newcomer seems almost impossible.

I knew that I would be able to network effectively at some point in time in the future. It required me to get out of my comfort zone on a regular basis. That is something that I have had a lot of practice over the years. I focused on my ultimate goal and got on with networking. Today, I network once or twice a week and am able to make relevant connections 75% of the time. I would like to share with you how I got on to achieve those results.

  1. Define Your Ultimate Goal

What is your motivation to network? How important is this to you? Who else will benefit if you are able to network effectively? These are the things that would help you make progress and enjoy networking. Anything that you enjoy doing will undoubtedly bring good results and you would be able to do it over the long term.

  1. Taking Baby Steps

London gives you endless opportunities for meeting new people. Meetup.com is a place where new groups and events are being created. A diverse range of subjects are covered: photography, culture, therapies, business etc. Some of these events are free and it allows you to go and explore. Pace Yourself. Choose to go to an event with no expectations and see what it feels like, how did it go and whether you have had any positive experience. To make it easier, choose one where the size of the audience is not going to be overwhelming. Other networking groups are BNI, Sterling Business Network, London Chamber of Commerce, etc.

  1. Choose events on subjects that you enjoy

I am not a great sportsperson. So, attending a sports event is not my thing. I enjoy going to a writers’ club or going to listen to an inspirational talk. I am going not only to meet people but also to learn something new. So, in case I don’t make any useful connections – it does not matter. I would leave with a few golden nuggets.

  1. Review And Change Strategy

Every few weeks, review and make a list of the things you like and those that you don’t. One of the good things being an introvert, we are self-sufficient as we tend to look inwards rather than outwards. Strategies are about changing our behaviours and attitudes.  Your behaviour is changed when you modify your beliefs. Whatever you don’t like – decide what you would like instead. Then, list options about how to go about.

  1. Trial and Error

There is no deadline about getting the results you are aiming for. Strategies are meant to evolve over time and with priorities changing, your strategies would need to adapt to the current situation. Flexibility is important when people are involved. You can only control your behaviour, your beliefs. Believing that you can control other people’s attitudes is a myth!. Faking your attitude is also a no go.  It does not help when you are trying to reach out to like minded individuals… you end up with the wrong crowd!

  1. You Are Not Alone

Being an introvert, you don’t shout at the top of the roof, who you are… You tend to make your way discretely. Yet, there are many of you who have overcome similar challenges and found their place. Susan Cain delivered an inspirational TED talk a few years ago about the power of introverts. Following her talk, she recently set up a community for Introverts: Quiet Revolution. There are many testimonials of introverts having achieved their goals such as public speaking, successful business owners..

  1. Networking Is About Listening

Networking is neither about collecting business cards nor about the ones who stands out. It is about creating connections that would be playing a role in your career, business or even in your personal life. Some of the people I met at networking events happen to be my friends, mentor and people I aspire to be. For you to make the relevant connections, use one of the main strengths of an introvert – be an empathetic listener. Making small talk and learn to know more about the people you meet comes quite easy when you are genuinely listening and not listening to reply.

  1. Do One To One Meetings

When you feel good about someone, don’t hesitate to ask to meet for a coffee. You will be surprised at how much you may have in common with the person. Trust your guts. Your guts instincts work when you are true to yourself and be accepting of you are.

  1. Take Time Out

Introverts need their own breathing space and time alone. This is how you recharge your batteries. Schedule quiet time for yourself on a regular basis even if it means that you don’t meet anyone for a day or two. Your “me” time actually helps to access your personal creativity and come up with new ideas, new options and renewed enthusiasm. Being is as important as Doing for Introverts.

Networking is not only for sales people and are not for extroverts only. It can be fun and fulfilling when you learn to harness your personality to create your tribe and grow your network!

The Concept Of Time

Time is considered to be a limited resource due to the speed at which information is disseminated online. Emails are now easily accessible thanks to smart phones.

There is a general belief that “there is not enough time” and any delays we encounter becomes a source of anxiety, frustration. According to Deepak Chopra, time is the movement of thoughts. So, allowing technology to dictate our use of time and our pace of life can lead to time management being a continuous source of stress.

In the “Western” world, to meet deadlines, to be punctual and good timekeeping skills are highly valued. More attention is paid to the tasks at hand, to stick to the agreed agenda and not much is done to build the right kind of rapport with the counterparty. It is assumed that if we do what is expected of us, then we have demonstrated our commitment and professionalism.

In other cultures such as Japan, punctuality is interpreted as a gesture of respect and courtesy. On the other hand, in India and in many other parts of the world, it is expected that meetings will start behind schedule as being late is considered as “normal”. Building rapport and creating trust amongst the parties are more important than punctuality. They will spend the time needed to ensure that the meeting ends at the “right” place. Relationships are the determining factor in growing your business and time keeping may be considered a trivial matter.

However, there may be different rules applied depending on whether you are local or you are a foreign visitor. In Madagascar, for example, the locals will not be expected to arrive in time if they are meeting their countrymen. On the other hand, if the counterparty is a foreign visitor, punctuality becomes a must as a sign of respect.

Time is also measured differently. In East Africa, you have the KiSwahili time. In our part of the world, time is usually counted as from midnight to midday. In East Africa, time is from dawn to dusk. Seven o’clock in the morning, in the Western World, is actually one o’clock in the morning in KiSwahili. It is assumed that the sun rises at around 6 am and sets around at 6 pm. If you want to know more about KiSwahili time, please click here. In most East African countries, people are used to the Western approach of measuring time when it comes to business meetings. However, when it comes to dealing with the local tradesmen, it is useful to ensure that you all have the same concept of timekeeping.

Time is in continuous flow with no limits and boundaries. The social norms of each culture have given it different interpretations. When meetings run late, trains are delayed or deadlines are not met, take a deep breath and step back: ” What matters most to the person you are meeting and what compromise are you willing to make?” Then, take action:)

Create Your Tribe

We all live in circles of friends, family, co workers and acquaintances. No matter how shy we are, we have to interact with people on a daily basis. Your network of relationships is part of your assets. Assets are things that we have and that contribute positively to our lives, be it professional or personal.

Relationships can be great assets!. Like any other asset you have, it needs energy, time and personal commitment. These relationships are even more crucial when you work in an environment unfamiliar to you as an expat or when you make a career change or start running your own business. It is not enough to have a number of business cards lying on your desk or having a number of “friends” on Facebook. Personal engagement with your network is important on a regular basis. Real and committed engagement is about getting to know each one of them, making a connection. This takes time and a genuine effort to invest in your network.

Creating a strong rapport takes place over time and it requires a strong commitment to add value to the lives of the people you engage with. Walking the extra mile to show appreciation is the personal touch that you can add. Whatever value you can add is all about your personality, your talents and your life experiences. Each interaction will determine how strong your interpersonal skillset is and how confident you are in being able to bring something that your network will value.

Adding value is not a one off thing that you can do at the start of any relationship. It is a continuous process of exchange between two persons. The universal law of giving and receiving ensures that there is a balance and allows for the relationship to be of value to both parties. It is quite unhealthy to be always at the receiving or giving end. It creates frustration, resentment when things go wrong.

Achieving that balance allows you to leverage your network. SME’s are usually run by small teams of 1-3 people at most. Taping into your relationships allows you to have access to a broader range of skills and experiences. You may even create a mastermind group of your peers whose skills set and experience is complementary to yours. For expats, having a wider network allows you to broaden your scope, possibly add value to your new job and they can be the support that you need during the early days of your new life and new career phase.

Your network can definitely be part of your net worth when you regularly engage, add value and leverage your relationships.

Tips For A Successful Repatriation.

Expatriation usually comes with great financial terms. When the children are growing up or when you grow tired of packing up every 3-4 years, most of you would want to go back home.

You would need to prepare for an exit strategy. A number of options would be available : going back to your previous work place or start a new job or set up your own business or retire. You would want to be in a position where you have some freedom to make up your mind.

Wealth Management
To do that, it is useful to have an investment plan. Investing your surplus income helps to ensure that when it is time to come back you are better off than when you started. There are many asset classes to invest your monies and it all depends on the time horizon. It will also depend on your financial needs at the time you come back. Will you need to pay school or university fees? Will you want to buy a bigger house or are you looking to set up a business?

These are some of the questions that you need to ask right at the beginning. You would want to ask for professional advice from your personal banker.

Most importantly, you need to make sure that whatever currency you are earning your income as an expat, you can easily convert into your home currency. It may be a good option to start wiring back part of your income into your bank account at home every quarter whilst you are working overseas . Foreign currencies fluctuate daily so you may want to ask your banker to do the transfers at a certain rate or negotiate the rate if the amount is substantial.

Investing in various assets such as bonds, properties, stocks are important to minimize risks. Although properties are known to keep their value, it is also not a liquid asset. Also, the level of net income earned from renting and after accounting for regular maintenance, may not lead to a great return on investment.

Tax Implications
Living abroad implies that you are no longer a resident of your home country. Would you still be expected to pay taxes at home? Would you need to pay taxes as an expat? It is important to take the right advice so that you don’t get caught up being worse off at the end of your expatriation.

Laws and Regulations
Will the laws of the country where you will be working apply to you? In case, you want to grow the family, will your new born child automatically be a citizen of your home country or is there additional paperwork to be done? The consulate or embassy representing your home country can be a good source of information.

New Mindset
When living abroad as an expat, one tends to enjoy all the perks that come with it. However, it is important to be down to earth in managing your life. Keeping in touch with friends and family also helps to keep a regular reality check. The “cultural” shock of coming back will be lesser.

You will undoubtedly change after having lived abroad for some time. Your life has been enriched by having experienced a different way of living and different cultural norms. Your new mindset can become an asset at work and your ability to cope with uncomfortable situations may have improved. Staying in touch with the family helps them to get to know a different version of you when you are back home. Their expectations will not be so different from reality.

Network
Find a way to network in your industry either online or through membership of professional and business associations. If over 50% of your network is made up of your colleagues and friends, then make an effort to widen it. Network in the local business community as some cultures is more about relationships and less about your resume. Networking can potentially give you access to new jobs and business opportunities. Improve your profile by learning the local language if it is widely used in other parts of the world as well. Keep track of the latest worldwide industry trends as well as the local/regional economic trends. When it is time for you to go home, you won’t feel so much like a fish out of water. In addition, you can now capitalise on the fact that you have widened the scope of your network.

Repatriation is all about planning and learning to pace yourself to unlearn all the habits that serve you as an expat and learn new habits that will help you make a successful return to home.

Tips For A Successful Expatriation

Successful expatriation is about making the most of the present. Life as an expat is not that glamorous, high flyer as one seems to think.

There is a perceived lack of support as you are not with your familiar circle of friends. Conversations on Skype or What’s App can’t replace the physical absence of your loved ones. Reconstructing your support system is important. Make it a point to pursue a few activities that bring you joy –gym, swimming, photography, hiking, group meditation, etc. Not having enough time or blaming it on the weather is not a good excuse. This is about making a commitment to your personal wellbeing.

Being part of a new team and a new work environment can make you feel lonely. Loneliness is a construct of the mind. It is important that you look after yourself by being aware of your emotions, doubts and fears. In these moments, you will ask yourself whether you have made the right decision or not. Recall your WHY and review it to ensure that you are in the right place and at the right time. Address your doubts by listing all the pros and cons of this new phase in your career. It is ok to admit that this may not be the right choice rather than hiding the truth from you. Be patient with yourself as you learn to navigate between confusion and clarity.

Create a lifestyle that helps to ease off the loneliness. Find out about the great places that you can visit, the great foods that you can try, the list of activities that this new home offer. As you plan your weekends in doing stuff that you have never done before, you will inevitably meet new people outside your work place and widen your social circle. The “novelty effect” of your new home will wear off after the first six months and by then, you will find yourself having a new routine. This new lifestyle of yours would not have been possible if you have chosen to stay in your home country.

Be curious and find out more about the local traditions and history of the place. Learning about the local culture actually is making a step out of your social comfort zone. Getting to know the natives is enriching. Learning about their traditions, way of living can bring you to a new understanding of the mysteries of life. Most people are ready to step out of their comfort zone for their career but not so many will do so when it comes to social relationships. I personally think that this is the biggest golden nugget of being an expat. You may end up building life long friendships with some of them.

Building relationships can be quite challenging in your new home. There is the possibility that being the friend of an expat is seen as being quite advantageous. Learning to put strong boundaries whilst remaining friendly and diplomatic is a great skill to acquire. It is easier to be with people of similar cultural background or with other expats, However that defeats the purpose of living abroad.

Interaction with the locals helps you to understand the local environment and shows a personal commitment to be socially part of your new home. Meeting people out of their workplace actually helps to build stronger relationships and mutual respect. Most expats struggle with understanding the intricacies of living a “normal” life in their new home country. Their jobs provide them with perks that are not usually accessible to the normal man in the street. They are not in touch with the local realities. Having to deal with the day to day demands such as going to the local market, fixing a tap leak at home becomes a challenge as they are not comfortable in dealing with the locals. This is an additional unnecessary pressure that can be easily addressed by gradually getting to know the local customs and being part of the local scenery.

Building your resilience is about getting used to being in uncomfortable situations. An expat’s life is the best ground for learning to be resilient. There will be unexpected challenges as your perception of reality is influenced by your cultural norms and values. Learning to take things as they come and go is very useful. Being able to let go of your expectations and keeping an open mind is half of the battle won. A successful expatriation is not about meeting your professional targets only. It is about making the most of your time in this new home of yours. There will be undoubtedly some golden nuggets to take away once it is time for you to leave.

Immigration – A Step Further Away From Expatriation

Relocating to a country to settle down is not exactly the same as working as an expat in a foreign country. As an expat, your future in your temporary home is partly determined by the length of your work contract and you are determined to make the most of it so that it brings you one step higher on the corporate ladder.

Relocation for settlement is reinventing yourself in a place that you hope to call home. Settling in a new country requires a lot of resilience, strong life coping skills and a huge dose of healthy self confidence. What you currently know as your “home”, your “roots” will now transform into a whole new meaning. A different perspective will be given to your life starting from day ONE you start this new phase of your journey.

There has been since the beginning of civilisation, movement of people from one country to another and from one continent to another. In the early 1900’s, when there was no internet and globalisation was not yet a reality, immigrants had no clue what they will find in their new home. They hanged on to the hope that a better future awaits them in their adopted “home”.

For today’s new generation of immigrants, things seem to be easier. There is so much information available on the internet. There are a number of professionals offering support services to help them settle down and immigration rules have been formalised in most countries. In terms of lifestyle, there seems to be a few similarities with the emergence of well known brands such as Russell Hobbs, Colgate, Nike, Apple becoming household names in a number of countries.

However, the complexity of starting afresh in a new place is still very much present. Doing business varies from country to country. Building a social network can also be a challenge. When you are out of your comfort zone, the instinctive response is to look for familiar cues such as meeting countrymen having done the same journey as you or befriending like minded individuals going through the same experience.

A successful integration would require that you hone your personal commitment to get out of your comfort zone and nurture a willingness to explore and learn. You will be facing challenges that you would not have anticipated such as your accent does not allow for a smooth communication and you feel undermined. Your clothing style makes you stand out and you are not comfortable with it so you make a compromise to fit in. These are tiny details that you may not have included in your relocation plan and yet they are powerful enough to shake your natural ability to bounce back.

Any challenge is an opportunity to develop new skills, strengthen existing ones and raise your self awareness further. Looking at challenges as positive opportunities is an ordeal in itself but yet so powerful to create a brand new perspective when life gets in the way of you achieving your goals. Remind yourself of the times you had to face challenges that you found daunting and you have successfully overcome it. Well, this is the same thing again. Life throws stuff at you as a means of teaching you how resourceful and resilient you can be.

Super heroes are ordinary people who continue on living by bouncing back from any challenge to achieve what they most desire.

What Influences Your Choices?

Some will rely on their guts instincts, others will review the facts and there will be a few of you who will use both your guts and factual information. It is important to understand what is your personal decision making process especially when it comes to making life choices such as immigrating, getting married, having your first child, buying your first home. Making life changes can sometimes lead to utter frustration, a sense of despair and your self confidence can take a hit as you dawns upon you that you have made those choices of your own free will.

Major changes such as relocating to a new country implies that there is a learning curve to go through and an opportunity cost to bear as the price of creating a new “home”. You will be having mixed feelings as you go through the learning curve and with new knowledge come confusion. What will guide you is your Inner Compass – your sense of direction and set of core values.

Everybody has values – integrity, flexibility, consistency etc. There are values that are non negotiable: those are the ones that no matter what happens in your life, you won’t compromise on any of them. Integrity is one good example. Your core values are part of  your inner compass in confusing times and they give you a sense of direction when you are facing pressures which question your sense of worth.

Your Inner Compass is the foundation of your life. How do you know whether you have a strong inner compass or not? Review your past life choices when you had to make transformational changes. What motivated you in those times? What is your decision making style and how do you make up your mind?

When your Inner Compass is strong, you have clarity and focus. Both are important when you move to the next phase of your career/life and with a strong sense of direction, challenges are easier to manage. You can’t avoid challenges and you can’t avoid making mistakes. This is how we all grow as professionals and as a person. What you are looking for is a set of core values that will guide you in your choices. This is your Inner Compass.

Do you know how strong your Inner Compass is? Have you had time to define it and build it over time? To know your sense of direction, you can probably review your life choices with a life coach or discuss them with your mentor. You can also keep a journal and jot down your feelings and thoughts as you go on your journey. Over the years, the journal becomes your own personal reference document that can help you review. Self introspection is useful when you are able to step out of the “story”. If you are looking for a life coach, please refer to well known associations of professionally qualified coaches who have received specialised training to do their job,