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What Influences Your Choices?

Some will rely on their guts instincts, others will review the facts and there will be a few of you who will use both your guts and factual information. It is important to understand what is your personal decision making process especially when it comes to making life choices such as immigrating, getting married, having your first child, buying your first home. Making life changes can sometimes lead to utter frustration, a sense of despair and your self confidence can take a hit as you dawns upon you that you have made those choices of your own free will.

Major changes such as relocating to a new country implies that there is a learning curve to go through and an opportunity cost to bear as the price of creating a new “home”. You will be having mixed feelings as you go through the learning curve and with new knowledge come confusion. What will guide you is your Inner Compass – your sense of direction and set of core values.

Everybody has values – integrity, flexibility, consistency etc. There are values that are non negotiable: those are the ones that no matter what happens in your life, you won’t compromise on any of them. Integrity is one good example. Your core values are part of  your inner compass in confusing times and they give you a sense of direction when you are facing pressures which question your sense of worth.

Your Inner Compass is the foundation of your life. How do you know whether you have a strong inner compass or not? Review your past life choices when you had to make transformational changes. What motivated you in those times? What is your decision making style and how do you make up your mind?

When your Inner Compass is strong, you have clarity and focus. Both are important when you move to the next phase of your career/life and with a strong sense of direction, challenges are easier to manage. You can’t avoid challenges and you can’t avoid making mistakes. This is how we all grow as professionals and as a person. What you are looking for is a set of core values that will guide you in your choices. This is your Inner Compass.

Do you know how strong your Inner Compass is? Have you had time to define it and build it over time? To know your sense of direction, you can probably review your life choices with a life coach or discuss them with your mentor. You can also keep a journal and jot down your feelings and thoughts as you go on your journey. Over the years, the journal becomes your own personal reference document that can help you review. Self introspection is useful when you are able to step out of the “story”. If you are looking for a life coach, please refer to well known associations of professionally qualified coaches who have received specialised training to do their job,